When Epictetus reminds us that we are only entitled to a father, not necessarily a good one, he's nudging us to acknowledge that our entitlement stops at the mere presence of certain things or relationships, not their quality.

Reflect on your own life. You might crave an understanding boss, a supportive partner, or even reliable friends. However, Stoicism teaches us that our expectations should not soar beyond the basic existence of these figures in our lives. Instead of lamenting the absence of a "good" version of these roles, we are guided to accept their reality as it is, and work from there.

Consider the foundational presence of people like your family members or colleagues. They are there, as is. If they exceed the fundamental role and bring joy, support, and guidance, see that as a bonus, not a given.

Your contentment becomes your own responsibility when you detach from the expectation that others must live up to an idealized role for you. Rather, focus on what is within your power—how you react, adapt, and whether you choose to foster and appreciate the good you do find, or to grow and be the 'good' you wish to see in others.

How can you adjust your expectations today to find more peace with the people in your life as they are, not as you wish them to be?