Be Wary Of Projection
“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”
—Marcus Aurelius
Meditations
Before you rush to judgment about someone else's actions or character, pause for a moment of self-reflection.
It's all too easy to spot and magnify the flaws in others while conveniently ignoring our own.
Think of a time when you made a mistake similar to what you're about to pinpoint in someone else. Doesn't that memory soften your stance just a little? It's not about letting others off the hook or excusing bad behavior, but recognizing our shared humanity—we are all works in progress, equally prone to stumbling. By understanding this, we not only foster patience and empathy but also encourage a space where others can learn from their mistakes, just as we hope to learn from ours.
As you go about your day, encountering frustrating situations or difficult people, challenge yourself with Marcus's question. Are you irritated by a colleague's lateness? Recall a time you didn't manage the clock well. Annoyed at a friend's forgetfulness? Surely there's a moment you too failed to remember an important detail.
Acknowledging these parallels not only humbles us but also connects us more deeply with others.
So next time you feel the urge to criticize, flip the script—think of it as an opportunity to understand yourself better and extend the kindness to others that you'd hope for in your less-than-perfect moments.