Hold Your Tongue
“Live in such a way that there is nothing which you could not as easily tell your enemy as keep to yourself.”
—Seneca
Letters From A Stoic
How freeing would it feel if your actions aligned so closely with your values that you'd have nothing to hide from others?
Seneca is urging you not to live a double life where you are one person in the light and another in the dark. Ask yourself: Are there aspects of your behavior that you'd rather keep from your enemy—or even your friends? If the answer is yes, it might be time to reflect on those discrepancies.
Now apply this idea to your everyday interactions. How often do we embellish stories, filter our true thoughts, or act differently depending on who we’re with?
Seneca's perspective encourages us to be consistent and authentic, no matter the audience. There's a profound strength and simplicity in living in such a way that your words and deeds could be an open book to anyone.
So, next time you're about to make a decision, pause for a moment, and consider if this is a choice that you'd feel comfortable sharing with everyone. Living with this openness reduces stress, builds trust, and leads to a genuinely more fulfilling life.